Faith. Fire. Finish: How I Turned Pain Into Purpose and Learning Into Leadership

I didn’t grow up around peace. I grew up around pain that spoke through relatives yelling and being threatening, slammed doors, aching heads and backs, and anxious mornings. I watched the women in my family carry burdens they didn’t have names for (R.I.P. mom, grandmoms, aunts, and great aunts)—until I gave them one. PMDD for those closest to me. Other names: Domestic trauma. Financial fear. Anxiety. I carry their legacy, but I don’t carry it the same way. I decided to use my voice, my pen, and eventually, a camera lens to help people process what they’ve lived through—because that’s what saved me.

In 1997, I gave my life to God, and everything changed. I didn’t come from a deeply spiritual family, so most didn’t expect me to get serious about my faith. Especially after surviving domestic violence in 1996, many figured I would move on quietly. But I didn’t. I drew closer to God through fasting, prayer, and time in the Word. I distanced myself from those who doubted my walk. I chose healing over pretending.

Even now, I get tired. Tired of the evil in this world. Tired of watching good people suffer while others play with power. But I keep going because I know I’m called. I know I’m not powerless. And I know the truth still matters. At the time of this writing, I dedicated 16 plus years delivering it on my channel, NM Enterprise 7 on YouTube.

I first saw the power of my voice as a child. I tried to talk sense into my friends and tattled on them when they didn’t listen. I wasn’t trying to be annoying—I just wanted peace. As I got older, people started to listen. By college, classmates thanked me for speaking up. Today, I use social media, YouTube, podcasts, and writing to test and share truth. Even family members who once doubted me now tell me to keep going. They might not always like what I say, but they respect that it comes from a place of wisdom and boldness.

My younger self would be proud of me. She’d be shocked, actually. That I went back to school, earned my degree, and now I’m working on my Master’s in Organizational Leadership (studies to be completed Aug. 2025). That I didn’t give up when life got hard again last year. That I didn’t let the same family issues pull me away from school like they did 20 years ago. She’d say, “Get that money like Grandma did it!”—but now I’m doing it with purpose.

I chose organizational leadership because I wanted to understand how businesses really run. I’ve always wanted to be my own boss. I didn’t just want to show up for work—I wanted to lead, manage, and build with integrity. My education is helping me do that.

I stay grounded with routines that feed my mind, body, and spirit. I write things down, use tech tools, and honor the structure I create for myself. I taught myself how to use AI tools (ResourceRundown), how to write and publish books, how to paint with acrylics, and how to research smarter. I’ve spent hours on YouTube growing in faith and mental strength. What I couldn’t afford in coaching, I learned through dedication.

My education hasn’t just helped me—it’s helped me serve others. I’ve supported small businesses and nonprofits, advised women about toxic relationships, and motivated people to go after their goals. Whether it's relocating, creating, or rebuilding something they thought was too far gone—I've encouraged people to believe again.

This is what I want to keep doing. Whether as a manager, consultant, or community leader, I want to keep turning truth into transformation. I want to keep choosing purpose, not just survival. And I’m committed to finishing what I started—not just for me, but for every woman and girl watching.

Nicholl McGuire 

Embracing Change: Lessons from My Life of Relocation and Family Growth

Throughout my life, I've experienced the unique challenges and rewards that come from relocating frequently. My beginnings in Pennsylvania prepared me for moving to places like Colorado, California, and other wonderful states. Each move was not just a change of address; it was a necessary step to support my family, and it shaped my journey in profound ways. I matured mentally, and spiritually and learned along the way to encourage others who also want to spread their wings and fly!

Every new town brought with it a fresh opportunity to connect with local church members, attend community meetings, and support individuals and businesses. These connections became my lifeline. I learned to appreciate the power of community, understanding that each person I met had a story and a lesson to share. From a business owner who complimented how well-behaved my sons were to the manager of a popular grocery chain sharing how he knew from youth, it was his calling. Whether it was helping market a charity event or simply talking with a neighbor, these interactions enriched my life and deepened my understanding of the world around me.

For instance, in one community, I was fortunate to partner with local entrepreneurs, helping them craft compelling narratives for their businesses. This not only honed my writing skills but also taught me invaluable lessons about resilience and creativity in the face of adversity. Each experience reinforced my belief in the importance of supporting one another, especially in challenging times.

Striking a balance between family and business wasn't easy. There were times when the demands of work felt overwhelming, and I struggled to juggle deadlines with family commitments. However, these challenges have taught me the importance of prioritizing what truly matters especially during the pandemic.

With my children now older and pursuing their own passions, I've found a renewed sense of joy and freedom. Watching them chase their dreams reminds me of the sacrifices made along the way, and how those sacrifices have ultimately contributed to their growth. They have become independent thinkers and doers, and I am at peace knowing that our journey—as challenging as it sometimes was—has equipped them with the tools they need to walk their own paths.

As I reflect on my journey, I am filled with gratitude for the life lessons learned and the relationships formed. Each relocation has been a chapter that contributed to my personal and professional growth. The struggles of balancing family and work have paved the way for deeper connections and a richer appreciation for the present.

Now, as I stand at this new crossroads, graduating this year with a Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership, I celebrate not only my own achievements but also the milestones of my family. I am excited to support them as they pursue their passions, just as I did for them in their formative years. Together, we continue to grow, learn, and embrace the changes that life brings.

In the end, it's not the places we've lived that define us, but the relationships we've built and the lessons we've learned along the way. Here’s to the adventures yet to come, and the joy of sharing them with those we love.

Nicholl

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NM Writing Journey and New Beginnings Completing Degree and New Career

Hello, everyone! 

I decided to express my gratitude to all! These days, writing has not occupied a great part of my life, but other studies have been a big part.  Back in 2024, I returned to a university in my hometown after a 25-year absence! I completed my bachelor of arts degree in multi-disciplinary studies the same year. 

Before my return to school, for many years, I dedicated all my work to writing and speaking personally and professionally by expressing myself through many nonfiction books and speaking engagements while helping others with their family legacy projects and business support. 

My freelance writing continues along with my fresh career path in 2025. As for now, I am in academic training to become an organizational leader. The path ahead brings me great enthusiasm because I plan to use my writing skills together with my leadership abilities to motivate others. I am deeply thankful to everyone who has backed me throughout the years. Your support through shares and likes together with your subscriptions has given me greater motivation than you can imagine! 

My dedication remains focused on helping people through their faith journey while delivering knowledge from this new phase of life. I will maintain periodic updates about my current work and will share additional information throughout this journey. Your support means everything to me, as you have been part of my life's narrative. 

Blessings to you, 

Nicholl

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Radio Interview on The Good News show sharing insight on relocation, faith, and life-changing experience

 This interview was one of my favorites, I met Danielle in 1991! I had a wonderful time, enjoy!

https://soundcloud.com/danielle-m-smith/good-news-nicholl-mcguire-author-9-15-23

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But did you know? I am also on Instagram and TikTok do check me out on those platforms!  Posts are periodic. Each social media platform has its own personality reflecting who I am and what I do from writing tips and past family life posts on Instagram to impactful and at times fun videos on TikTok, there's a little something for everyone.

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Tips on Writing Creative Nonfiction Stories and Feature Articles by Nicholl McGuire

If you're thinking about writing a creative nonfiction story or article, there are a few things you should keep in mind. 

First, your piece should focus on true events. This means that you'll need to do some research to make sure your facts are accurate. However, don't let the research process overwhelm you – remember that you're telling a story, so the most important thing is to keep your reader engaged. You can see an example of this when you read my work, “Say Goodbye to Dad” which has a variety of experiences fatherless daughters and sons have incurred but also there is research to explain personality disorders and unhealthy relationships.

Second, while it's important to stay true to the facts, don't be afraid to inject some creativity into your writing. After all, the whole point of creative nonfiction is to tell a fascinating story that will captivate your readers. So don't be afraid to use literary devices like similes and metaphors to bring your story to life. This had been done in my poetry anthologies: “Floral Beauty on a Dead-End Street”, “Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate,” “Laboring to Love Myself”, and “Spiritual Poems by Nicholl.”

Third, make sure you have a clear focus. creative nonfiction stories and articles can be about any topic, but they should always have a central theme or message. Once you've decided what you want to write about, brainstorm some ideas and think about the best way to structure your piece.

Finally, don't forget to edit and proofread your work before you publish it. Even the most well-written story will benefit from being read aloud and from a second pair of eyes – so ask a friend or family member to read over your piece before you hit "publish." By following these tips, you can be sure that your creative nonfiction story or article will be captivating and enjoyable for readers.

Get started working on your book today!  Start with an easy-to-use platform that I have partnered with Bookemon.  The set up is quick.  You are able to use templates to create your work and the turn around to print is reasonable. You can also create audiobooks!  Learn more by clicking on the image below.  

All the best!

On Writing About Yourself

"I was thinking..." the start of a statement like that and it puts everyone on notice.  Yes, thinking can be dangerous to anyone who chooses to act in fear rather than love.  I choose love and have been choosing love when I write for decades contrary to what any critic would like to think!  I love victims, survivors and victors.  I have trouble loving enemies that is why I lean on God since he commanded we do so. This is why it is a must that I tackle any work I produce with God in the plan, because any other way I would then consider myself a fraud.  I don't agree nor do I support that kind of foolishness!

Maybe it would be easier for some of you reading this blog post to draw out your personal truths by doing the following: writing a song, singing, drawing, painting, dancing, acting, producing a play or traveling.  Whatever you choose to do, don't leave this world without being honest with yourself and those around you!  

Let's start with a little self-examination, shall we?  Prior to you reaching out to me or someone else to possibly tell your story, consider the following:

1) What do you want the world to know about you and why should they care?

2) Who are you really trying to help?

3) Why should we listen to you?

4) Will you approach the work ready to pay to create it, cry as you reflect on past memories, beg someone for a second chance, borrow from those who don't mind sharing, avoid the temptation to steal from those who put their time in..., are you sincerely ready to complete what beckons you to share?

5) How about who or what is it that inspires, motivates, and moves you to love them, and once again, why should we care?

6) When do you plan to pen, speak, or type your work and how might you stay motivated in completing your work?

7) What if you knew you were going to die tomorrow would all the hope to create your work really be necessary?

Part of knowing whether you are in fact honest with yourself and others is to interview yourself.  You will soon discover that you aren't ready just yet, but your getting there.  So go back to doing what makes you feel comfortable, isn't that what typically happens anyway?  Whatever it is that keeps you distracted from tending to what really matters and that is what your soul is telling you.

The reason why most people don't really commit to writing a book or any creative work that exposes them (although they desire to) other than those laughable excuses, "I'm too busy" or "I don't know what to write about," is they know they can't be honest with themselves or anyone else!  Those excuses, depending on who is saying them and how they are saying them, are funny to me, because I know they make plenty of time prepping food for a holiday gathering where stuffing faces is a requirement and I know they have some idea of what to talk about, because they sure know how to talk themselves out of doing things that might leave them feeling vulnerable or talk about what others are doing that they are not!  Therefore, there is still time for some individuals to figure out what they would like to leave behind for us all, but not so much for the many hard-hearted (even in my own family.)

People aren't getting any younger and so the clock of life continues to tick.  The thought of why you made certain life choices and not others gets buried.  Why you do what you do is never explained.  Who you really are when there is no makeup, wig, or nails polished...?  What you really stand for when no one is interviewing you?  When did you stop striving for that one dream and picked up a career instead?  Why you married who you did and did you ever plan on being a parent?  

A lot of people will check out of this world never telling us how old they are, who their parents are, the secret life they have lived, how broke they really are...we will learn from kinfolk or strangers, we will learn something in their passing that would have been better said had they told that above ground.

When you write or create something about you, let it be honest, straight from the heart!  Be vulnerable share your regrets, faults, and other weaknesses just as much as you share your achievements!  Social media is encouraging false narratives to be told for many people.  Let me help you write an honest life story in your very own words!  Begin your journey with me today!  We will go over your book idea and as your book coach, I will be there to encourage and advise for a reasonable rate.  Simply send an email to:nichollmcguire@yahoo.com with, "I need a book coach" in the header.

Most recently I decided to finally share a chapter of who I am, not in the traditional fashion of nonfiction books filled with challenges and wisdom like what I have already written (I have 17 self-published books now), but simply showing my story in stillness and peace I have found during my family moves.  I started out in Pennsylvania; however, I have lived in Ohio, Georgia, Colorado, California, Illinois and have visited my share of states. 

I didn't build upon any of my creative works by diving right in; rather, I started my writing quests in stillness then the words came.  In order to visually see what I am talking about and wear one of my timeless gift items, check out my new shop, "Stillness Gifts" here. I will be periodically adding more products soon.  Feel free to like, share, and purchase these eye-catching items today!

Nicholl

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Spiritual Wisdom - Life is Too Short

Exciting times ahead whether good, bad or otherwise!  Get ready for serious life changes all around.  What you see now in media, is only the beginning of more to come.  From wars and mayhem to major businesses laying off dedicated employees from around the world, one will need to have a plan of action to weather the storms!  If you are a person of faith, you need only to rely on your God, but for others they will have difficulty trying to comprehend the castatrophic events that will come their way.  

I have seen and witnessed people trying very hard to run from life troubles using addictive drugs and alcohol to cope while others are immersing themselves in a variety of jobs and hobbies.  However, the events that beckon you to take ownership and work through them will not continue to be put off or away.  You must do something!  As some wise counselors have told us time and time again, "Life is too short!"  It truly is!

When I think back on my own personal and professional life challenges, I marvel at how far I have come with the help of kind souls and an awesome God, but I also realize that my existence is but a minute in time, and before long, I will join the many others who have left this world.  Our reunion on the other side will be magnificent--one of rejoicing and celebration!  When you walk with your personal savior, there is no doubt about your relationship with Him and the perfect world that awaits far beyond this one!  

More and more people are recognizing that there is more to mind and body as they sit in quiet and deep mediation.  They realize they are compromised of a spirit that surpasses all man-made reasoning that embodies a Creator who wants nothing more than to connect with the lost souls of man, woman and child.  How awesome would it be if flawed human beings would humble themselves before the great I Am and finally commit their lives to Him!

Although this blog has typically been about my work online and the services I provide to businesses, I periodically share spiritual wisdom and personal faith to remind those who have spent much time running the rat race while forgetting the one who got them the job or business in the first place!  There is more to life than just money, cars, homes, travel, education, networking events, customers, and paying growing bills!  Have you heard from your Creator lately?

I think of the many professionals I have connected with over the years.  We had lively discussions about the spiritual condition of people and how might they be better at communicating their concerns, living out their spiritual callings, and overall being the new and improved human beings they desire to be.

Lately, my sincere prayer has been that the world will experience the years of peace as promised in the Holy Bible before destruction comes.  I also pray that all might come to know Jesus before they close their eyes.

Back to work....until next time.

Nicholl 

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Seasonal Virtual Assistant Services Provided by Nicholl McGuire

Not only do I write, but lately I have had individuals and businesses reach out for other requests such as: online digital magazines, printed books, help with social media calendar posts, and business consulting.  

With so many people working from home, they don't have the time to commit to every activity required to build, post, create or innovate so that is where I come in.  So if you need additional hands to help with your project, reach out to me via email at nichollmcguire@yahoo.com with the following information:

1) Type in the subject header: "Business Inquiry"  

2) Request the service you need.

3) Provide information about your organization along with contact information.

4) State what you have already completed related to your project (if applicable).

5) Mention how much you will pay for the service you are requesting.

Once received, I will review and let you know whether I am available to complete your request along with pricing and other instructions.

Work Samples, Resume, and Interviews included below.  

Books

Apple Books

Amazon

Blurb

Articles

Everyday Power 

Paired Life 

Axis of Logic

Bharat Bhasha

Hub Pages 

Ezine 

Authors Den 

Street Articles 

The Organizer 

Dating Advice Relationship Problems 

Laboring to Love...

Workplace Problems, Solutions...

Professional Development

Certificate for administrative support

Resume

Media Interviews

Radio Interview on Loving Myself Radio Show

Awesome Gang Blog Interview 

News Radio 1020 KDKA Interview 

My Linktree:

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I look forward to hearing from you, have a great day!

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15th Book Released - Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics by Nicholl McGuire

It was long overdue to print a book that had begun about the same time I started Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic back in 2009 but released it in 2013 with the '09 copyright.  I had taken a pile of printed sheets and placed them in a manila folder, I had no passion or plans for a work that just might ruffle someone or a group's feathers again (yes my work does just that).  However, my God had other plans and it felt like out of the blue I became determined one day to work on that book.  On the other hand was Face Your Foe...(which had no subtitle at the time), it just wasn't ready--not in 2011, 2014, or even 2016, but then 2017 came along.

Over the years, I was still learning more about the greatest adversary to the Christian faith, Satan.  It wasn't time to face a foe when I was still gaining some understanding as to why I was still sparring with him about the work rather than trusting in my personal Savior to complete it. 

You see, God had set me on a path to do something a bit different with my creative nonfiction writing skills.  I had spent much time writing worldly content, but spiritual work was quite a different story--it was a challenge--the flesh wars against the spirit within when it objects to all things righteous and true especially the material that directly impacts you and those you love. 

The Holy Spirit was leading me into unfamiliar territory with my work and admittedly I was nervous and scared sometimes, because simply put, God is real, He speaks and walks with you when you sincerely believe in Him.  Yet, self-defeating thoughts and worldly distractions were keeping me away from both Christian books for a time, but I eventually prevailed, because I chose to shut out people, places and things that didn't know the least bit about writing, spirituality, God, faith, etc.  Why argue with ignorance or debate your experiences with unenlightened ones?

It took some time to make up in my mind that I would begin writing books of faith.  Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic was a smooth process when I finally sat down long enough to type it and stay focused on the work back in '09.  However, Face Your Foe was quite a different story since I had experienced the passing of my grandmother (May, 2015) while writing that book along with Tell Me Mother You're Sorry.  If you are a writer, I'm sure you can relate to the highs and lows of preparing an article, report, book, or some other work.  You are on a roll and then something occurs in or around you that slows you down. So Face Your Foe...was once again placed on the back-burner.

Now that Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics has been released (June, 2017), I feel somewhat at peace, but I have other works that are sitting in the background of my mind and on paper that I am on the fence about.  They aren't spiritual books simply practical guides and a children's book.

In closing, I am quite grateful to my Creator for what has already been done through me to help others.  If there is anything I want people to know is that I have given up a lot and have fought spiritually and in-person about my writings.  I have lived through difficult circumstances so when I write work, it is from a true and tried place. 

The responses I have received over the years from readers, who have been in a variety of life circumstances, has been overwhelming at times, but I am glad that they have seen the light in my work and have been dedicated to make necessary changes.

I challenge anyone to be emotionally, physically and spiritually set free from the people, places and things that have kept you bound for years.  God didn't put us on this planet to be nothing more than slaves to children of darkness--walk in the light, your spiritual calling.  Pray about what burdens you and wait for God to answer.

Peace, love and joy
Nicholl

Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic by Nicholl McGuire (print edition)

Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic by Nicholl McGuire (Kindle edition - ebook)

Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics by Nicholl McGuire (Smashwords - ebook)

Nicholl McGuire Media

Face Your Foe - Christian faith blog

Describe Yourself

You don't need a dating profile, social networking page or anything else in order to describe yourself in the way that I am about to with you.  Who are you, really?

At times we need to check in with ourselves, find out what is new about us, still the same, as well as open to exploring.  So I sat back and thought how might I explain who I am in one short paragraph.

"An avid writer, a conspiracy enthusiast with a nose for useful news...A wife and driven mother of four discerning boys.  An unashamed Christian who doesn't mind sharing life experiences and inspirational advice.  Always learning new things while taking one day at a time anticipating what God has in store."

Once you write a description about yourself, notice the areas where you are still true to who you are as well as those things that have since captured your interest, changed your life, etc.  You never know when you might be asked, "Describe yourself."  I notice that right now I am more spiritual than anything else.  I noticed that the first thing that comes to mind is what has always been with me since I could hold a pencil in my hand, writing.  I am evolving once again "learning" which simply means for me, more changes ahead with a supernatural influence.

So go ahead and try it, write your description, and then reflect on what you said about yourself.  You just might discover something about your future in between the lines of text.

Nicholl

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Tis the Season - Springing into New Relationships, Connections

Around this time of year there is an increase demand of relationship and dating material because a lot of people have started new romances back in February.  For years I have ghostwritten many articles for dating websites resulting in an increase of traffic to my clients' websites.  When I am not writing, I have other work around the web.  Feel free to click on the following links:

Dating?  http://lovedatingadvice.blogspot.com

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com

Audio about dating related topics and life challenges here:  http://www.yourlisten.com/nichollmcguire

Donations welcome for upcoming projects. https://www.paypal.me/nichollmcguiremedia

Author's Books

Most printed books are available here.

Shopping
Black Friday Cyber Monday Strategies to Use Year Round
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/596746

Family History
Genealogy X What to Expect When Researching Family History
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/587712

Recreation
Should I Go to the Party
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/595947

Relationship
She's Crazy
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/595466

Too Much, Too Soon Internet Dating Blues - printed book
https://www.createspace.com/6085989

Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/575764

Laboring to Love Myself
https://www.createspace.com/3401526

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
https://www.createspace.com/3332346

Family
Say Goodbye to Dad - A Survival Guide to Breaking Free from Toxic Emotional Ties
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/554313

Tell Me Mother You're Sorry (ebook)
http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/549977

Tell Me Mother You're Sorry (print version)
https://www.createspace.com/5585253

When Mothers Cry
https://www.createspace.com/3393499

Christian
Know Your Enemy:  The Christian's Critic
https://www.createspace.com/3437273

Spiritual Poems by Nicholl
http://www.blurb.com/b/3113926-spiritual-poems-by-nicholl

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Please watch: "NM Enterprise 7 - The Interview on Writing and Speaking"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q6lhnP1kiTw

Hyper Focus - Super Concentration - Lambda Monaural Beats

One of many tools to help people train the mind to focus.  Sometimes life can become so distracting that you lose your drive. Learn to tune into sounds other than the typical music heard on the radio.  Take a breath, listen for as long as you can, and then get started on whatever task is in front of you!  To your success!

Don’t Like Your Life? 5 Action Steps to Personal Growth

I have had moments in my life where I simply didn't like what I was doing and where I was headed so I made up in my mind to make necessary changes.  Many people are sick and tired of being sick and tired and are ready for personal and professional changes in their lives, but they just don’t know how to go about making their desires happen.

Jobs, relationships, and money, may be negatively influencing the way you see your life right now.  Have you been doing something about it?  You may have already shared with others how you feel about being a wife, husband, parent, employee, or friend.  Behind your back, someone might be praying for you, talking about you, or hoping that things will get better for you.

 

 

You feel this way, because you don’t like the choices you have made.  The children came too soon, the man wasn’t what you had in mind, the woman you married changed drastically, the job wasn’t what you expected, and your friends aren’t available anymore. You might personally believe that you are too old, too tired, too stubborn, or too whatever else to make a difference in your life or others.

Some encouraging people have told you what you should do or say to make things better in your life, yet the advice hasn’t been anything you bother putting into practice.  Maybe the following tips will bring you the peace you need or maybe not.  It all depends on your mindset and what you are willing to receive. Remember at the start of this writing I shared that I had to make up in my mind to change.
 
When someone isn’t happy with his or her life, it is usually because the individual isn’t at peace with one's life choices.  The person struggles with whether he or she should make adjustments, but doesn't want to do anything about problems because the individual feels like one doesn't have enough knowledge, money, time or some other reason.  So that brings us to the first point.

Obtain knowledge on what burdens you the most.  From parenting to finances, there is so much free information that can help you answer all your questions.  You don’t need money for that, but you do need time.  Many people will say they don’t have the time to read a book, watch a movie, or listen to meditative music, if this is how you feel, then your burden may not be as important as you think. 

 

When you really want to do something about a problem, you will make the time!  You’re doing it now, reading this article.  If your husband or wife told you he or she is leaving the relationship, you would make the time to talk with him or her, wouldn’t you?  If someone told you that your favorite sports team was playing at an arena and they had VIP seating and you're invited, you would make the time to attend the game, wouldn’t you?  People are only as busy as they choose to be, so the first thing you need to do is clear some space in your schedule to tend to the things that bother you the most.  Is it your job?  Look for opportunities within the organization to advance.  Children driving you crazy?  Take time for yourself to find out what you need to do to settle them and your nerves down.  Husband still cheating?  You put up with that long enough, focus on an exit plan and obtain legal counsel.  Wife spending too much money?  Find out how to communicate your concern effectively.  Find the information you need to resolve the problem.

 

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Next, after you have educated yourself on what bothers you, make a written plan and abide by it.  For instance, let’s say you have an illness, the doctor gave you tips and a prescription that will help you feel better.  You know you will have to possibly change eating habits, exercise, or refrain from certain activities as well.  Create a plan and post it somewhere in your home that you can see everyday.  People who are the most successful with accomplishing their goals will write them down.

 
Third, inform the people who will be affected by your plan of what you are doing.  If you feel that the adjustments you make in your life won’t affect them, then it won’t be necessary to let anyone know.  However, when changes occur and they affect other people, someone most likely will be upset if you just expect them to do things differently just because you want them to.  So when possible communicate changes.  Unnecessary arguments happen all the time because a person didn’t bother to let the other know.

Fourth, document your success.  For instance, you need to save money, you read about the ways to do it, you made your plan, now document all the times you successfully saved money.  When you read what you had written on a later date and notice all of the accomplishments you have made you will feel good about yourself sticking to your goal.  Reward yourself when you are able to, thanking you for being you!  Don't expect others to praise you, encourage yourself!

Lastly, when you have accomplished your personal and professional goals, share your knowledge with someone else who may be going through the storm you just got over.  You might make a great best friend when you do this.  As a result of your personal experiences, you will be able to tell that person of your journey to rise above difficult people and circumstances.

 

Nicholl

 

Check out my book, What Else Can I Do on the Internet?  There is more to do than what you already do.  So take your Internet experiences to the next level today!

Websites that I Have Submitted My Work

Over the years, many websites have needed content about a variety of subjects to increase page views, generate subscribers, sell products, etc. This is just a small sample of online businesses I have submitted articles or accepted requests to write specific material for pay, advertising revenue or exposure.  Each site has specific criteria and will indicate whether they pay or not. 

Miss Matchmaker

Paired Life

HubPages

Artipot

College Central

ArticleBase

Street Directory

Ehow

Street Articles

Everyday Power Blog

Are You Truly Living, Growing or Walking Dead? Don't Let Life Bring You Down!

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Someone is Going to Get Paid...

Someone must know something I don't know.  The day that I decide to stop print on my book, one business plans to make more than a profit--I'm not mad at them--lol.  This is by far the craziest amount of money yet that I have seen my book going for to date.  I have a limited amount of autographed copies floating around and those who got my signature wanted me to address them.  So there are no printed books that have just my signature (FYI to book collectors).

What's interesting about When Mothers Cry, I wrote the book when I had a newborn, a toddler, a tween and soon to be teen.  Now things have changed in my life which makes that book a classic.  Blessings to those people who own a copy!  Currently (as of Nov. 2016), $450 plus used and $725 new.

Nicholl

What is on Your Agenda Today?

We have a life to live so we might as well live it.  We have money to spend on important things so we might as well spend it.  There isn't much time to worry over anyone or anything and even less time to get all the tasks done that we desire to do.

People don't value their time as much as they should.  It is very easy to be led into an unproductive activity or routine while other tasks go unnoticed.  Throw unproductive people into the mix and before long your "To Do List" increases in size with those who are essential to your progress.

So value the time you do have, handle important duties, and at the end of the day, be satisfied with what you have accomplished-- even if you didn't get it all done in a day.

Nicholl McGuire
What Else Can I Do on the Internet? 

For the Fatherless Child...Say Goodbye to Dad by Nicholl McGuire

You love, you like, you hate, you worry, you stress, you miss...your father.  In this book, I share the process of release that takes place when you reach a point in your life when you awaken to the truth about your father or those you might consider father figures.  Stop chasing, stop performing, stop wishing...let go and feel at peace.

Say Goodbye to Dad is available here and enjoy your personal copy on your portable reading device.