Mean partners + naive mates = Physical Violence...Someone is being Abuse...

Nicholl Appears on WPXI Impact Show in Pittsburgh PA

Updated my Blog: Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Since my book was printed, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate on Amazon.com, some years back, I continued with updating my blog about abusive experiences, signs, and tips.  I thought it was best I do this so that readers of my book would have a place to go online that welcomes their issues, provides solutions and simply understands.  There aren't too many people that will allow themselves to comprehend much less offer assistance to someone who isn't leaving an abusive mate (at least not yet.) 

Many of the contributing writers and myself, have all been there and done that.  Some people may still be going through some challenges and just haven't revealed everything.  I am not where I use to be (in my past experience with abuse,) but because of it, I still have those times where it is difficult for me in my present relationship.

Honesty is the best policy in any relationship.  Be honest about the things that a partner says or does that trigger an emotional outburst.  Tell the truth, even if it hurts, when your partner is making you feel uncomfortable.  Do what you must to try to keep the peace in your relationship.  For instance, if you know that at times the children drive you mad, go into a room and close the door! 

So many couples spend more time trying to deceive one another and others into thinking they are fine and their relationships are the best; rather, than choosing to deal with the things privately that are bringing it down slowly but surely.  Some couples are so blinded by evil that they can't even see it!  Therefore, they justify their self-destructive actions or inactions in a relationship as them "just being them." 

You have to wonder just how much does someone care about his or her partner when they always look to excuse bad behavior.  "Oh that's just the way he is...She's crazy, but I love her...That's just how we do...I don't care..."  Sure you don't.

So check out my blog about Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.  It is definitely a wake up call for couples who think that their relationship is okay when it really isn't, and it's a very useful blog to those who are interested in checking out of that abusive relationship slowly but surely.

Nicholl

Domestic Violence Awareness

During the month of October almost 100 Pittsburgh Women's Domestic Violence and Homeless shelters received my book, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate by Nicholl McGuire.

I chose the Pittsburgh PA area because it was the location that my abuse occurred back in 1996. It was also the place that helped me get through my ordeal.

Thanks to a few family members and my own personal budget for the book, my cause got off to a great start and I hope to do it again next year!

Hopefully, someone will be moved by my writings and get out of a bad situation before its too late!