You might only have one chance to make the right not write impression.


Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Networking Events

I don't mind the invites to various events, but if you are seriously trying to recruit people wouldn't you provide the transportation at least to the first event?

I get invites from mothers, business people, relatives, and strangers on the street to go to all sorts events from flea markets to church gatherings. Its all well and good, but you would think after the person quickly interviews you and finds out you have four children, no babysitter, and one vehicle (that unfortunately can't hold everyone) that they would at least say, "I will take you, no problem!" You see, I am usually not sold on invites from strangers immediately anyway, because I am simply cautious of most people. I have found that there is always an agenda behind an agenda with some of these network recruiters (including some churchgoers) which usually involves giving someone money, service or both.

I think what frustrates me the most about these "recruiters" is that they are more concerned about "the numbers," "the money" and whatever else they are trying to push than the person. How many of these recruiters have asked me, "How are you doing?" or "Let's go out to lunch!" You can't blame people for the following like: finding every excuse in the world not to attend your event, ignoring your phone calls or turning their head when they see you. Your first impression made the difference to them. As far as they are concerned, they may have seen a nice person at first who genuinely liked he or she only to find out that you were more concerned about this person attending your event than getting to know them. (Didn't Jesus share who he was first rather than worry over people following him?) The person may have sincerely thought about going to your event only to find out you fail to return calls or return them way too late, don't give them enough time to get ready for your spontaneous invites, realize you don't have adequate transportation to get yourself to the event much less help them get there, you make promises you don't keep and the worse yet, you are running your mouth about the person without knowing anything about them! Stereotypes hold very little truth once you get to know someone!

Since I have received numerous let-downs from well-meaning recruiters -- I mean people, I think I have made the conscientious decision to create my own event complete with me, myself and I, as for meeting in person, well that's why we have Twitter now don't we?

Saturday, June 12, 2010

New Book for Father's Day by Nicholl McGuire

You may have stopped at the greeting card aisle of a drug store seeking a card for your dad for his birthday, father's day or some other holiday and ended up settling on one that really didn't express how you really feel about him or opting out of buying him a card. It just doesn't seem right that every year a holiday comes up celebrating your father and/or the father of your children (some of you reading this have those too,) you just don't want to do anything. "Why bother?" You say. "It's not like he cares or would change his evil ways!" That's exactly why I wrote this book, because I want adult children as well as teens to express how they sincerely feel about their fathers while he is still young enough to do something about it and while you are still able to express your hurts.

I have personally witnessed the sons and daughters of fathers who waited too late to find their peace concerning their childhood issues and vice versa. It's so sad! Then later in life, they are passing on their regrets to their own unsuspecting family. Some grief-stricken sons and daughters end up acting like the very men they resent! In some twisted way their minds think that they are close to their fathers by acting like them in negative ways! We can all choose to stop the negative cycle of abuse by acknowledging our own pain, making right wrongs we have bestowed on our children (no matter how bad -- please do forgive yourself!) and most of all sitting down with the man who hurt you and asking him questions. Whatever way you choose to find the peace you seek so that you can move on, know that someone out here understands! Please do get my book by clicking the widget below and I pray it will help bridge the gap in your relationship with your father (or the father of your children with is own) this Father's Day and many more to come!