Friend Feed

In the past I connected with people on Friend Feed.  Although this network isn't as large as the more popular sites, it is just as professional.  I stick with this site because I like its simplicity and convenience--I have it linked to other accounts.  If you are interested in joining another social media site, then do try Friend Feed.  Check it out here and feel free to subscribe to my latest news feeds.

Just a Little Something...

It is rare that I find something so simple, yet so moving!  This link is just a friendly reminder to take one day at a time and while you are doing that it outlines some things that we seriously need to do!  Let this link be a blessing to you and yours and please share.  The writer is no longer with us, but his words live on!

http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/6sUsYz/:C5.g3ZKD:87lt3y$2/www.katinkahesselink.net/other/today.html/

For My Writer Friends...

I thought you might be interested in two writer sites I have been following for years via email.

The first is Nick's Writing Blog.  He shares interesting tips related to the publishing industry and his personal experiences and his site has a freelance board.  Learn more here.

The second is Trent Steele's WriteStreet.com.  On this site you will not only find useful publishing tools to help you improve your writing skills and create your best work, but there is also a forum where you can meet fellow writers like yourself!

Both sites have partnered with one another.  Definitely worth checking out!

7 Things You Worry About When You Shouldn't

Ever feel yourself getting upset over the littlest of things?  Do you often worry about things that end up not even being a big deal?  Why do we bother over issues that really are meaningless and will not help us or our families if we choose to waste time and money concerning them.

One.  Worrying over things beyond your control like incidents that happen on the job, at home and elsewhere.

Sometimes things happen unexpectedly and so situations like this are inevitable.  Of course, you want things to run smoothly, but we don't always get what we want in life.  Mistakes happen, people lose their cool, get sick, and leave.  Cursing, crying, and bad-mouthing about those people and things we can't control is going to accomplish what?  A negative energy that comes from you and then infects anyone you comes in your presence.

Two.  People we don't like.

You might worry over someone or a group that you don't like finding out that you don't like them.  So you worry that your negative mannerisms or words are going to get back.  If so, then what?  You are going to worry about coming up with a lie or something else to cover up your feelings?  People who are unlikeable really don't care too much what others think. 

Three.  The price of things fluctuating.

A guy on the radio alerts you to yet another inflated price on something that should be cheap.  A woman warns you about losing money on a stock.  Meanwhile, you don't typically buy any of these things.  So why are you so concerned?  Oh that's right, because someone has convinced you that you should be.  Can we say, brainwashing?

Four.  Death.

It's unfortunate that yet another person has died in your family, but some people just want to use a tragic situation to start trouble and get you to worry.  For instance, a relative wants you to come to a funeral.  But you can't make it, so you tell him or her.  He or she doesn't sound so understanding about your absence.  You don't like his or her reaction, so now you worry whether or not your relative will still be nice to you.  To make matters worse, another relative calls to tell you that a certain disease runs in your family, and "You better...and you might want to..."  So you start thinking about what he or she said over and over again.  When your body has a minor setback, whenever that might be, are you going to worry yourself to death about it?

Five . Someone else's illness.

Not your body, so why are you worrying yourself sick?  The person doesn't listen to advice, doesn't want help, and makes excuses, not your problem.

Six.  Wild animals, crazy insects and the boogie man coming to get you and your family.

So you heard a report about something crazy in the forest and you also became captivated over a photo on the Internet with a caption that read, "Their here."  Now what?  You spread the word all over the place upsetting people about something that you don't even know is true or not because you didn't bother to do any research.  To make matters worse, some big black bug is crawling around on your floor so you kill it and then you tell everyone in the family to be on the look out for more in their closets and beds and maybe this is a sign that something bad is going to happen.  Don't you think you are over-reacting just a little?

Seven.  Celebrities and other people who the media says is important--really?

You don't know that A-list actor or that D-list singer, but you worry that they died as a result of an organization murdering them and so now you stay up late all night thinking about them.  Then you scare people with stories about staying at home because some people got shot up the other day and maybe your neighbors might be next.  And as if that isn't good enough, you tell people to watch this show and that show to learn more about people who they don't know or even care about because this thing or that thing happened to them and it might happen to those you know.

We have all been guilty of this sort of behavior at times.  It's one thing learning about something and then sharing useful information with others.  But when one is inciting fear, mayhem and just plain insanity over things that none of us can control, there is a problem.  We should all remember to be wise before we share stories.

Turn your worries over to your Creator.

Truth-Seekers: The Scripts Man/Woman Comes Up with for Our Nation

Just Because it's a New Year Doesn't Mean...

Just because it's a new year doesn't mean...

1. You are going to do anything different this year.  But it feels nice telling people that you are.

2.  You are going to look any different, but if you keep telling yourself you are, well we will just keep your lie a secret.

3.  You are going to have less challenges, because the older you get, the more you have.  The more you do, the more the stress.  The more you talk, the more you will be held accountable.

4.  Your family is going to listen to you, share concerns, or even bother with you this year.  Most likely, they have enough going on in their lives.

5.  You are any closer to God than last year because you attend church a little more, participate in a spiritual fast, and give away more money and time this year.  Keep in mind, God wants a personal relationship with you and sometimes simply listening to HIM and doing what HE says is all that is required.

Lastly, just because it's a new year doesn't mean...

6. You are finally being fed the truth from deceptive family, friends, co-workers, media, etc., instead, it just means they are orchestrating yet another way to cover for self, make you look like a fool, and dumb you down so they can get what they want, so wake up to those of you who are still sleeping!

Thanks for stopping by, and oh yes, Happy New Year!

Nicholl

Twitter

Keeping with my last blog entry regarding social media giant, Facebook, I came across this interesting link about Twitter.  It looks like everything you ever said would be available for you to check out in the future.  Beware liars!

Also, I took the following statement out of the link, I think this sums it all up:

"In 2010, the Library of Congress pledged to preserve every public tweet as a matter of record — a significant undertaking, given that some 400 million tweets are dispatched worldwide every day."

Did you know that they did this back then?  I don't believe this was on every front page newspaper, advertised anywhere, or a main topic on your favorite Internet browser.  Most likely was buried somewhere behind some irrelevant celebrity gossip. (sigh)

http://news.msn.com/science-technology/twitter-lets-users-claim-their-personal-history-1

Since Leaving Facebook...

I will tell you that I actually feel more free mentally since leaving Facebook.  You see, I spent time, sometimes too much time, catching up with people over the years on Facebook at one time I had over 800 plus friends then in later years I purposely only connected with less than a 100.  I grew weary of trying to stay on top of the latest events in people's lives so I could converse with them while doing daily activities offline.  I would think, "Oh this would be good to share...what about that...don't want to say this...wonder what this person is doing."   I would find myself at times having a dream about this person or that one.  But oftentimes feeling burdened to pray and share, there is indeed an energy of sorts that is generated between connecting and disconnecting with people whether on or offline.  But I knew my time on Facebook and other sites  was limited.  You just know these things when you pray for purpose, wisdom, etc. when dealing with others.

Some of you might feel burdened by your Facebook network for a number of reasons.  It just isn't mentally healthy to view so much about someone else's world and partake in any and everything he or she posts up.  Before long, you find yourself idolizing certain people or worse stalking them.  Not everything I saw on Facebook was good, encouraging, or helpful.  Oftentimes, I saw people wearing too many different faces and personalities or some having far too much to hide so they came off as boring--more interested in what you have to say then participating in any meaningful dialogue.

For some of you reading this, you may honestly feel like you need to disconnect.  Don't make an announcement to your network unless you are certain that you want to leave, because people will try to get you to stay--that's what held me up in the past.  If you should start the process to disconnect, you may want to collect email addresses and phone numbers before you do.  Disconnect with those individuals that you know you don't ever want to be connected with in the future whether on or offline just in case there is some kind of future marketing plan to lure you back in with select faces-I deleted all connections before I left.  Also, remove  videos, images and other information in albums.  As for all your status updates, you might want to copy those you like, delete some for whatever reason, and then delete your account.

For me, FB another fad that lost its shine, no regrets.

Nicholl

Something to Think About...

You learn a lot about relationship, family, health, wealth, business, and more when you ask questions.  Now I know for some of you reading this, what I just said was simple—too simple.  But are you doing it?  Are you really setting aside time out of your day to meet, not only with your team at work, but what about those who are going through trials and asking questions?  What about an unhappy, stressed partner, do you really know what is going on with her or him?  Do you make time to research issues about your finances and children?  Why is Johnny acting the way that he is?  Why do I keep coming up short when it comes to paying bills?   

Honestly, how much time does one really spend interviewing self and those closest to him or her compared to television watching, radio listening, cell phone talking, etc.?

We have all been guilty of neglecting children, partners, tasks at work, and more for a period of time or for some weeks and worse years!  We usually play catch up when we are left with no choice.  You will make the doctor’s appointment when the pain gets bad enough to make you go.  You usually want to sit down and talk with someone when they start making verbal threats.  You will find the time to teach and play with a child when there is no one else in his or her life who cares like you do, when grades are suffering, or when the temper tantrums become frequent.   

Oh we will make the time when our backs are up against the wall, won’t we?  

Motivation to do what’s right, to ask the right questions, to make the hard decisions, among other things, come in ways we like or don’t like, but it comes.  You will do what you are putting off sooner or later!  One day, you will have to come to face with an enemy of sorts that will demand that you make a decision, act on an issue, or bring peace to a situation.  Now how you react when your test comes is another story.

Nicholl McGuire